My name is Lindsay Goodwin and I would love the opportunity for you to get to know me and why I have created the Nonprofit My Angel W.A.D.E. – Widows Affected by Death at an Early age.
It all started on September 11, 2010 when I met up with some friends from work for happy hour on that warm Friday night and low and behold I met this charismatic, funny and handsome guy named Wade. We immediately hit it off and became inseparable. We enjoyed the same things; going to the beach, boating, traveling, concerts, NASCAR, college football (he loved Alabama *Roll Tide* and I’m a Gamecocks girl…that matchup in 2010 was exciting especially for me, and of course I would still remind him years later that the Gamecocks took down the Champions). Sorry I digressed with the football story, but my word this list could go on and on, we did it all and we did it together, as much as possible. We would laugh at what we called our whirlwind relationship because of how fast it moved and the journey we were going through together. After only 3 short months of dating we knew there was something special between us and decided to move in together and it was absolutely amazing living with my best friend. Although we had a whirlwind relationship, we weren’t in a rush for marriage and that was fine with both of us, we were enjoying the relationship we were building. Then 3 years later we were talking with each other and his sister while camping out for a Talladega race and she asked the question, “when are you two going to go through with it and get married?” We laughed, not thinking much of the question at that time, and then on the 8-hour drive home we really talked about marriage and without hesitation decided it was time. In our fashion, we didn’t wait and 8 months after that conversation we got hitched on July 5, 2014 at the very spot we met each other – nothing fancy just he and I and our closest friends and family that were here in town – a big to do of a wedding wasn’t “us”. We went on doing life as normal with all the things we loved to do, but I now have his last name and it felt amazing! January 2016, we bought our home and were now talking about, dare I say it, having little ones of our own. This is something I didn’t think we’d ever consider but here we are doing the adult thing and talking KIDS. We already knew it would be a bumpy journey because I know I have issues with infertility, but we said we’d give it a year of trying then turn to doctors for help – who knew we wouldn’t have that year together to try for this next journey in our lives. Only 10 short months after we purchased our home, my husband, my best friend, would be gone. On October 30, 2016, the knock at the door that no one wants to hear, the one that will send chills down your back, the one where the police are standing on the other side of the door waiting for you to open it to shatter your world. This is the moment that I find out that at 34 years old I am now a widow; my Wade will never walk through those doors they just walked through. Our life that we had and the life we were planning was now gone, he was just gone. The next days, weeks, months are a blur, but I do remember searching for anyone or a group, ANYONE that I could talk to and relate to, but I couldn’t find anything or anyone that was for young widows. I understand death is death, but when you become a widow at 34 you are cheated on time and a full long life with your spouse and I needed someone that also understood this. Here I am now, 1 year and 6 months later which has been filled with ups and downs, smalls steps forward, large steps backwards and now a huge leap forward with this Nonprofit to reach young widows. We are here to let you know you are not alone, to help you through your time of grief, building lasting relationships with each other. And most importantly being by your side during the ups, downs, small steps forward, large steps backwards and when you are ready, we will be here to cheer you on when you make your huge leap forward.
Xoxo – Lindsay Goodwin
Wade and Lindsay Goodwin